Boys2Men; You See

I work with teenagers you see, and on this night I became afraid when I received an SMS from a teen who is so dear to me. So dear she is, and she knows it too, that she would dare to break my beauty sleep at almost midnight, first with a call and then an SMS.

“he’s done it again” she said, “he sh***ed my friend…I now get it clearly…”

We had been having this argument over the last few days, you see, about ‘how far was too far’ and that this particular fellow (name withheld) was obviously after her hymen and nothing more. Blinded by love, actually lust; she found it difficult to reason with me and so I was afraid for what might happen.

Now again I am afraid after receiving this SMS, afraid for a different reason however.

I am lying here in the darkness of my one bedroom apartment with my friend snoring away beside me and I can’t help but type out these thoughts unto my nokia ‘torchlight phone’. It seems like the only way to successfully drive these tears away because I really am afraid you see.

What does this sixteen year old ‘get’? Too many females out there already see men as the ‘devil’ and it scares me to think that she too might just be gaining the same idea. I want her to be chaste but not because she hates or fears men.

You see, I had always hated to teach my teens that males are simply sex hungry freaks of nature. At first I taught that only because I wanted to scare them away from males and so keep them in check but I always failed when they asked questions like “what about you uncle Yellow, are you also that way? Shouldn’t we be friends with you?"

Though I knew there were exceptions to this nasty tag handed to males, I wasn’t willing to grant these females a chance to even think that way, lest they fall into the wrong hands. I was afraid for them you see.

Then after a while I too began to believe it and then again I became afraid. Afraid for myself; were these females safe with me? For I too am male and if this premise was correct then they weren’t any safer with me than they were with other males I had warned them about.

Just then I discovered a vital truth; not all males are men, many are yet boys. Like children who they are, they are yet to put away ‘childish things’ (1 Corinthians 13:11). It is those boys who are the freaks of nature wanting sex before its time or wanting sex and nothing else.

Every male thinks of sex you see, I know I do, and would like to experience it. It is called a sex drive; actually every human has same, males and females alike. However, only the children (the boys and girls) are unable to wait.

A boy would do anything to get some cookies; he would promise heaven and earth to mummy, he would cry, sulk, whine, beg, threaten and even act violently. He would be on his best behavior if he knows that would impress mummy enough to give him the ‘cookie’. Usually, all this would last just long enough for him to get the ‘cookie’. The boys in the ‘sex world’ are no different.

These boys make it hard for the men to get along with the women, you see, because now the women have mounted their guard. I noticed something else though; the boys only have their way with other children- girls. These girls can't wait either, hence they are unable to spot a boy apart from man and so fall prey to the tantrums of the boys.

Why don’t we all just wait till we are grown up, mature and able to put away childish things?

I stand for sexual purity; No Sex Until Marriage (No-SUM) is my slogan. Join me, but please, entry is restricted to men and women only (sorry guys, I’ll refer to you as ‘ladies’ in subsequent posts iyeh. Bear with me this once, thanksJ), no boys or girls are allowed beyond the front gates.

#sigh# I’m no longer afraid, I know the truth to teach her just in case she got it wrong and the others too, gotta keep my kids safe you see. Like mama Dettol would ask, if I don’t take care of them, who will? #wink#.

I had better catch up on my beauty sleep; I hope the sleep train hasn’t gone too far down the tracks....